My first date experience, how should I continue on?

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lchua6 said:
If a guy likes a girl, he would want to impress her by at least offering to treat her.
If a guy doesn't like the girl, some will just cut loss and ask the girl to split bill.
That's the logic. What is so diff to understand?

It is just like saying "You have already wasted my time, don't waste my money. Let's split bill and go home"
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This. Your reaction is most honest
It's either the guy don't like the girl that much or he like the girl but sense the girl don't like him enough to get a second date
 
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Can create a 2nd date if you really like her …
You could say she left something behind in a rush and you wanted to return it. If she asks what it is… just ghost her. 😂
 
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Think pretty obvious bah. Especially when on message for another meeting. :s22:
 
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TiedInsurer said:
When a woman expects a guy to treat her for first date, the guy will think she is a gold digger out for a free meal.
You can say it is ridiculous but you can't stop guys from thinking that.
If you really believe most guys will not think that, you are just .... stupid

Once again, sarcasm, to point out how ridiculous this line of thought is, for those who may be lacking context.
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In the first date, both parties are judging each other.

If the girl laugh a lot during the date, the guy will assumed that she has a "cheerful" character.

If the guy asked the girl to share the bill, the girl will assumed that he has a "cheapo" character.

The guy can offer to pay the bill and the girl can offer to share the bill. It doesn't matter if the girl expect you to treat her or not. But even a girl who does not want to be treated will judge you as "cheapo". It is not wrong for her to judge you as the purpose of blind date is to judge each other.
 
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lchua6 said:
In the first date, both parties are judging each other.

If the girl laugh a lot during the date, the guy will assumed that she has a "cheerful" character.

If the guy asked the girl to share the bill, the girl will assumed that he has a "cheapo" character.

The guy can offer to pay the bill and the girl can offer to share the bill. It doesn't matter if the girl expect you to treat her or not. But even a girl who does not want to be treated will judge you as "cheapo". It is not wrong for her to judge you as the purpose of blind date is to judge each other.
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Similarly, it doesn't matter if the girl pays or not. If the girl pays, but is unhappy about it, then the guy can judge her as a gold digger out for a free meal. It is not wrong for him to judge her as the purpose of blind date is to judge each other.

See how ridiculous that is?
 
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yokine3a said:
Aircon env is ok if weather really hot, but hc has more varieties lor. Food court also good if it has nice food, but I won't encourage to go restaurant for first date, no point spend the money.
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In my opinion, a comfortable environment matters. Particularly for a first meeting.

It is unreasonable to assume that a girl can have an engaging conversation while sweating like a cow.. how to look chio if her make up is melting? Even Saizeriya is a better option. ;)
 
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Spike said:
In my opinion, a comfortable environment matters. Particularly for a first meeting.

It is unreasonable to assume that a girl can have an engaging conversation while sweating like a cow.. how to look chio if her make up is melting? Even Saizeriya is a better option. ;)
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Agree. It is not just about aiya, first meeting, chin chai first don’t invest so much. Yes and no also. Environment matters a lot.

I’d also add on, no hotpot, no BBQ, and no movie on first date. Aside from meals, something interactive would be great.
 
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Little turtles said:
What is so difficult to treat a gal on first date???
Just take it as sunk cost lah.
I think you will be single for a long time until you learn the concept of give and take.
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It is difficult for him. He said even if he pays for everything, she may also not accept a second date or him. He dun wanna incur greater losses.

So maybe he might just as well.
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But like that if date long term, the woman can also run. If married liao, can also divorce. If we eat liao, also will dabian everything out. No point eating. We live many years and one day will die also. No point living also lor like that :o

With such small mindset, like that he stays single the best.
 
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