My first date experience, how should I continue on?

[Jaylim123]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

Means I dodged a bullet lah

 

[quirkyhill]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

zomg finally got a sane edmwer's reply

 

[glarerder]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

Exactly. And some people are teaching others that paying is the right thing to do when the ones who get girls frequently don't do that.

Girls who expect the guy to pay are looking to secure their own financial future more than they see you as an equal partner or someone fun to be with I guess.

 

[quirkyhill]

If you dated enough with women from different cities and countries, you wouldn’t just say SG women.

anyway, most guys will offer to pay if they date chiobus also right? like if you date taylor swift, you will ask her to go dutch with you?

 

[TrollAndOgres]

Are you rich?

Are you handsome and tall or fit?

Are you witty, engaging and charismatic?

If neither of the above at all, think chances trend towards zero, oops.

 

[Mountainnodew]

You sure 5mins or 50mins? After google, post on edmw and play games…

 

[Jaylim123]

anyway, most guys will offer to pay if they date chiobus also right? like if you date taylor swift, you will ask her to go dutch with you?

If jang wonyoung go on date with me ofc i will pay

 

[jackiehuat]

So many girls out there, just learn from here and move on.

 

[TiedInsurer]

If you dated enough with women from different cities and countries, you wouldn’t just say SG women.

You'd be surprised. In america, a 2024 survey found that 44% says the one who earns more should pay. 36% says it's better to go dutch. Very few will say the inviter should pay, or even that the man should pay. And nowadays, it's increasingly common for the woman to be the one who earns more, especially since women under 35 have a higher median salary then men their age. Their salary only falls behind after childbirth, because they have a two years lead in the job market and go to university in greater numbers.

And i'm not sute if you paid attention to AMDK couples in MBS and other locations in SG, but it's very common for the man to be empty handed while the woman carries a lot of things. They advocate true equality, at a level asian females aren't prepared for.

 

[1982-1994]

How tall is she? I recalled you were 190-195cm tall?

 

[Wu-Han Clan]

SG women expect most men to pay for dates.

But they do not apply this logic to AMDKs, handsome oppas, exciting bad boys with ang kongs, or host club guys.

Your sinkie girl will get angry if you even dare to ask about going dutch, but she won't blink an eye at dropping $400 at a host club or to chase some amdk/oppa that she thinks is a real catch.

If you have to pay for your date to secure the heart of your girl, know that you're part of the 90% majority of beta men in the eyes of your gf/wife that she settled for. You are not a real catch in her eyes, you are someone who offers her an acceptable transactional deal.

the only post TS ned to read.... go dutch are only for real catch... prized men.... creme de la creme... 12 inch throbbing sausage... blonde hair.. blue eyes... rich lao peh...

if you dont come from rich family... dont drive conti... take grab/public tpt... stay hdb... no interesting life experience... only study in sg.. go jc/poly then ns then work... typical sinkie male... only go uniqlo shopping... you are at the bottom of the list... cannot go dutch....

you can think abt going dutch if you knw you dont want to see the girl anymore.... like at the table she keep talking abt her ex bf or her many seks partners... tt one if you purposely make her go dutch to save your $$$ no one will say you...

 

[Monstruo^]

anyway, most guys will offer to pay if they date chiobus also right? like if you date taylor swift, you will ask her to go dutch with you?

If it ish Taylor swift, I wouldn’t ask to split, but still, TS will. Mybfd

According to his logic and based on so many of his responses, he thinks that if he paid for the date, who knows he may not hear from her again. So he wanna incur less damages by not paying for her portion at all. I duno simi logic ish this.

 

[Monstruo^]

Even if I treat her she also can part ways after the first date what. Like that I incur even greater loss

Duno why this one read one time laugh one time.

Even if I buy food to eat, the food later will become da bian and they will be flushed out from body. Like that I incur greater loss to even spend money on food knn. So no point eating ya

 

[Jaylim123]

If it ish Taylor swift, I wouldn’t ask to split, but still, TS will. Mybfd

According to his logic and based on so many of his responses, he thinks that if he paid for the date, who knows he may not hear from her again. So he wanna incur less damages by not paying for her portion at all. I duno simi logic ish this.

So if not taylor swift you will ask to split lah isit

 

[glarerder]

the only post TS ned to read.... go dutch are only for real catch... prized men.... creme de la creme... 12 inch throbbing sausage... blonde hair.. blue eyes... rich lao peh...

if you dont come from rich family... dont drive conti... take grab/public tpt... stay hdb... no interesting life experience... only study in sg.. go jc/poly then ns then work... typical sinkie male... only go uniqlo shopping... you are at the bottom of the list... cannot go dutch....

you can think abt going dutch if you knw you dont want to see the girl anymore.... like at the table she keep talking abt her ex bf or her many seks partners... tt one if you purposely make her go dutch to save your $$$ no one will say you...

Simply put, if you're not at the top 20%, don't date. Work hard and strive to be the top 20% else stay single is the next best, better than being a beta simp paying their way into (and as well as maybe out of) relationship and marriage...

 

[Monstruo^]

So if not taylor swift you will ask to split lah isit

No. I’m not you. Go eat a meal nia scared this scared that walau.

 

[Jaylim123]

Simply put, if you're not at the top 20%, don't date. Work hard and strive to be the top 20% else stay single is the next best, better than being a beta simp paying their way into (and as well as maybe out of) relationship and marriage...

Based on that logic only 20% of singaporean men will be attached.. but the actual percentage is definitely much higher..

 

[helloicanseeu]

I brought a girl to raffles place for our first date. We had lunch at a chinese restaurant but I asked to split the bill instead of me paying everything. She said ok and she paynow me right on the spot.

After we finished eating I had to go to the toilet so she waited for me outside. 5 mins later after I came out I couldnt find her so I checked my phone and she said that she had to leave because of an emergency.

how should I continue from here? Do I still have chance for second date?

get edmw bbfa for 2nd date ...

 

[Wu-Han Clan]

Simply put, if you're not at the top 20%, don't date. Work hard and strive to be the top 20% else stay single is the next best, better than being a beta simp paying their way into (and as well as maybe out of) relationship and marriage...

yalo.... actually if nt 20% can still date lah... juz hv to be realistic dont aim the top 40% can liaoo... most girls are delulu... 30% to 40% percentile is think they are chio bu one so this kind will hv unrealistic standards for their looks....

the girl will hv hdb parents with hdb face... bt expect guy to earn well... drive car...go europe holiday... afford condo...

if sinkie men below the 20% percentile want to date must aim the 50% 60% percentile... gt a bit higher chance of happily ever after...

 

[Monstruo^]

You'd be surprised. In america, a 2024 survey found that 44% says the one who earns more should pay. 36% says it's better to go dutch. Very few will say the inviter should pay, or even that the man should pay. And nowadays, it's increasingly common for the woman to be the one who earns more, especially since women under 35 have a higher median salary then men their age. Their salary only falls behind after childbirth, because they have a two years lead in the job market and go to university in greater numbers.

And i'm not sute if you paid attention to AMDK couples in MBS and other locations in SG, but it's very common for the man to be empty handed while the woman carries a lot of things. They advocate true equality, at a level asian females aren't prepared for.

Not sure what your point is. I’m speaking from my own experiences. And because the other guy said SG women, so I’m just sayin this kind of thing doesn’t just apply to SG women. It is pretty much international. In general.

And of course there are women that offered to pay or split, Asians or not. Women can practise equality sure but sometimes you also need to exhibit some EQ. Not scared this scared that afraid to lose out with that $40. Come on.